Defining a “Successful Relationship”

By Lindsey Danisch, Registered Social Worker and Psychotherapist

A “successful relationship”: We need to redefine this concept.

For some, this term “successful” is saved only for those partnerships that end in life-long marriage-‘til death do they part. But who is to say that’s the only qualifier for success?

A 3-month relationship, where partners learn about they sexual desires and preferences, is a success.

A 5-year relationship, where you now more clearly understand of the qualities you need in a long-term partner, is a success.

A 20-year marriage that has ended, where you’ve learned to love and let go, leading to more self-discovery and resilience, is a success.

I have clients who tell me they’ve had “no successful relationships” and after a little more conversation, I can see that they’ve had many successful relationships. While those relationships have now ended, the amount of information they’ve learned about them is amazing.

The ability for my clients to reframe their relationships experiences is empowering.

Let’s take back this phrase and redefine what success looks like in relationships of all kinds. Every relationship, no matter how short or long, teaches us something about ourselves and desires. They help us prepare for future relationships-and that’s what success looks like!

 

Lindsey Danisch MSW, RSW

Provider of Psychotherapy

By |February 13th, 2017|Relationships, Self Care|0 Comments

QUICK LIST! Dating Boot Camp

By Lindsey Danisch, Registered Social Worker & Provider of Psychotherapy

QUICK LIST! Dating Boot Camp:

Get your mindset straight- Be positive. Everyone deserves love. Look around: people of all shapes, sizes, ages, abilities, and personalities find love. So can you.
Make goals (and stick to them) – Dating is like learning to play an instrument, mastering a new hobby, or going back to school. Set goals, assess, persist, fall down- and get back up…follow through.
Manage your expectations- You are complicated, and so is your future partner. No one is perfect, but you might be compatible.
Create the Tools- Sorry, online/app dating is here to stay! Having half a profile filled out with no pictures listed is not online dating. See these tools as assets not the enemy. Have a great first impression and let the technology work for you!
Get feedback- Take a look in the mirror. What makes dating you difficult? What can you be working on?
Hire professionals- We hire realtors when buying a house, tutors when learning a new subject, hairstylist to do our hair…but when it comes to love, we struggle in silence.

Lindsey Danish, MSW and Registered Social Worker

Provides Psychotherapy and Dating Coaching (off and online) at Innate Wellness

Learn more: www.realtherapy.ca

By |September 20th, 2016|Mental Clarity, Relationships|0 Comments